I find that people are so quick to label someone “arrogant”.
Bing and Google both define arrogant as “having or revealing an exaggerated sense of one’s own importance or abilities.”
Even Urban Dictionary (God forbid, and, NSFW) defines it as “When a person is led to believe that they are in some way more superior to everybody else.” [note: the rest of the definition wasn’t PG enough for me to quote it here.]
Arrogance is something that must be demonstrated over time. If the desire to label a person is a snap judgement then the most you can accurately call that person is “smug“. Don’t besmirch people just because you don’t agree on how things should be, or because they won’t accept your point of view. In that situation you should first agree to disagree and then ask yourself, “Who am I, anyway?”
And no, this isn’t me venting because someone calling me arrogant or implied that I am. It came up in my morning meditations and simply bothered me enough to say something about it.
… Especially since it is an article about how Target Stores figures out how to market to you.
“Habits aren’t destiny — they can be ignored, changed or replaced. But it’s also true that once the loop is established and a habit emerges, your brain stops fully participating in decision-making. So unless you deliberately fight a habit — unless you find new cues and rewards — the old pattern will unfold automatically.
“We’ve done experiments where we trained rats to run down a maze until it was a habit, and then we extinguished the habit by changing the placement of the reward,” Graybiel told me. “Then one day, we’ll put the reward in the old place and put in the rat and, by golly, the old habit will re-emerge right away. Habits never really disappear.”
The rest of the article is here.